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The Power of Praise: Using Positive Reinforcement WellNEW

By the MyKidIsBad.com team · not medical advice

1 min read Updated October 28, 2026

Praise is one of the most underused tools in parenting — not because parents don't praise, but because most praise is too vague to teach anything.

Why "good job" runs out of power

A generic "good job" tells a child you noticed, but not what you noticed. Said often enough, it starts to feel automatic rather than true — and kids are very good at telling the difference.

What works better

Name the specific behavior. "You waited your turn without interrupting" teaches something "good job" never will.
Praise the effort or choice, not just the outcome. "You kept trying even when it was hard" builds resilience; praising only results builds fear of failing.
Catch it in the moment. Immediate, specific praise sticks far better than praise given later.
Don't overdo it. Constant praise for ordinary things can make kids praise-dependent. Save it for moments that genuinely deserve it.

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