All kids feel sad sometimes. Depression is different: low mood, irritability or loss of interest that lasts for weeks and affects daily life. In children it can look like crankiness, stomachaches or withdrawal as much as sadness.
Depression is a health condition, not weakness or a character flaw, and it is treatable. Early support from a professional and a warm, steady family can make a real difference.
What parents may notice
- May seem sad, empty or tearful much of the time
- May be irritable or easily angered
- May lose interest in things they used to enjoy
- May sleep or eat much more or less than usual
- May say they feel worthless or like a burden
- May have trouble concentrating or schoolwork may slip
- May complain of aches without a clear cause
- May withdraw from friends and family
Seeing some of these does not mean your child has this condition. Only a qualified professional can diagnose.
Strengths worth noticing
- Deep feelings and empathy
- Resilience and the capacity to heal with support
- Insight and honesty once they feel safe
- Creativity often shows up in art or writing
- Strong bonds with trusted people
What often helps at home
- Listen without trying to fix or minimize
- Say: I am here and I love you, no matter what
- Keep routines for sleep, meals and movement
- Spend time together doing low-pressure things
- Limit comparing or pushing too hard
- Reach out to your pediatrician or a mental health professional
- Share a plan with school where helpful
- Take care of yourself so you can keep showing up
At school
Show school tips
- A trusted adult for check-ins
- Flexibility with deadlines during hard times
- Counselor access
- Communication between home, school and clinician
- Gentle reentry plans after absences
Myths vs. reality
Show myths and reality
Reality: Children and teens can experience depression.
Reality: Depression is not a choice. Support and treatment help.
Reality: Asking directly shows care and opens a door to help. Seek help right away.
When to talk to a professional
- Low mood or irritability lasts more than a couple of weeks
- Your child's sleep, appetite or schoolwork have changed noticeably
- Your child withdraws from friends and activities
- Your child talks about hurting themselves or not wanting to be alive. Contact their clinician or call or text 988 right away
- You are worried and want a professional opinion
If your child ever talks about hurting themselves or others, contact their clinician right away, or call or text 988 (US). In an emergency call 911. We are not licensed professionals; this page is general educational information and our best practical thinking, not medical advice.